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How to Tell Your Partner and Family You Are Pregnant?

Telling your loved ones that you’re unexpectedly pregnant can seem overwhelming. You may be worried about how they will react, what they’ll say, and how they’ll feel about you.

You don’t have to struggle with delivering the news; we’re here to share some simple things you can do to ease the process.

Consider Your Feelings

Pregnancy can bring up a lot of emotions. Take the time to process yours. How do you feel about this pregnancy? It’s ok to have a mix of feelings, such as fear, uncertainty, surprise, or anticipation.

Processing your feelings ahead of time will help clear your own thoughts before you’re ready to take on others.

Think About Your Options

Don’t feel pressured to make a decision now, but it’s a good idea to explore where you want to go. Think about how abortion, adoption, and parenting will affect your life. It’s worth thinking about this stuff now so you can preemptively discuss it with your loved ones.

Planning The Conversation

Depending on your relationship and your boyfriend’s relationship with your parents, you may want to consider having two different conversations. This way, your partner doesn’t feel boxed upon hearing the news with your parents.

Understand that your boyfriend will be initially shocked, and be prepared for this reaction. By separating the conversations, you’ll know they can feel safe sharing their true reaction and emotions without a filter.

However, if you are experiencing serious concerns about your relationship, it's important to reach out for help. For support and guidance, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline. If you feel in immediate danger, please call 9-1-1 for emergency assistance.

Choose A Time And Place

Try to pick an environment that will make your boyfriend and parents most comfortable. For your boyfriend, that may be his place or your place if you share a residence. For your parents, it might be best to deliver the news at their home; that way, you can remove yourself if the conversation gets too overwhelming.

Additionally, think about timing; avoid busy or stressful periods for both parties. Choose a time when they can be relaxed, perhaps a weekend or end of the week that lends itself to a positive and welcoming atmosphere.

Also, think about breaking up each talk into two separate blocks so you can give both your parents and your boyfriend time to process, then come back later and discuss again.

You Are Not Alone

These will be difficult conversations to have, but preparing for them can lessen the burden and provide favorable conditions for a productive talk.

No matter what reactions you get, Metro Women’s Care is here to provide you with support and no-cost pregnancy services, such as pregnancy testing, education, medical referrals, and community connections.

Contact us today to book an appointment.